The Healing Industry Is Getting This Wrong

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Your mind is not your enemy. You don't have to get rid of it, you don't have to ignore it, and you don't have to leave it aside.

You don't need to forget about those mind-based practices that work wonderfully for you. And no, you don't have to turn your back on nervous system work either, no matter how sick you are of hearing it everywhere.

You don't need to choose between your mind and your body.

In fact, you shouldn't.

Collectively, we're moving from one end of the spectrum to the other, from relying heavily on just mind-based techniques to forgetting about them and spending all our time and energy on body-based techniques.

And I think it's a big mistake.

Without even taking into account that we always tend to forget about energy, and that's the foundation of what we are.

We're whole systems. An entire universe lives within us. We're body, mind and energy. Everything lives in this human vessel that we have been gifted.

So why does it feel that we always have to choose?

Between this work and that work. Between this practice and that other practice. Between investing in this person or that other person.

Our minds come with us everywhere we go, the exact same way the ego does; they don't have an off switch. And the same thing happens with our body and energy. So even if you're doing nervous system or somatic work, the rest of you will be present and active.

You can't work with one aspect of yourself without taking the other two into account. They're listening, and they have a lot to say.

This is why I don't believe in working with one part of what makes our human body. And I definitely don't believe that lasting change comes by focusing on just one aspect of what makes us human.

The transformation we desire can't be created only using mind-based tools, I agree. But it also can't be created using only body-based tools. That's where we're headed. And I don't like it.

I also don't expect someone to come into my world and get everything they need from me. Yet that's what we're seeing, a collective shadow. And that's why it feels like we have to choose all the fricking time.

I'll always advocate for a holistic approach. An approach that will allow you to work with that trifecta I've mentioned - mind, body, energy.

I deeply believe that unless you work with all of them (and you can do that individually, you don't have to combine everything into one same work), you're always going to feel missing pieces. Because you're not addressing those 3 aspects that are always at play.

This is one of my core truths, and I make sure I pour my time and energy into all of them - not in equal measure, just in what I feel I need.

This is the reason I have:

✺ A coach + astrologer who uses more mind-based techniques (and knows my patterns to a T).

✺ An energy healer I trust with my life, who I go back to each time I need.

✺ A somatic coach I've just started to work with to give my body what it needs.

The same way I don't get everything I need from one person, nor do I expect anyone to take me there, I don't offer that all-in-one transformation either.

I do the work that I do —more mind-based than anything else— because my gift is the mind, I help you see what you can't see. And I leave the body and energy for the ones whose gift is just that.

Plenty of tools exist beyond talk therapy or stuffing your brain with information in the mind-based world. Find one that works for you.

A million practices exist beyond yoga or breathwork in the body-based world; find the one that feels right.

And lots of techniques exist beyond Reiki or chakra balancing in the energy-based world. Find the one that feels safest in your body.

Our blueprints are completely different; find what serves you best.

And from there, create your team. Build a team of people you trust and can rely on, who allow you to experience this inner work from the 3 different angles. And pick whatever you need, depending on what you're going through.

That's truly the most holistic approach I've found to create lasting change and make sure I don't leave any part of me out of the journey.

Because the moment we start working with just one aspect of our entire system, the moment we forget what is everything that makes us us, is the moment we lose ourselves.