The Truth About Healing No One Wants to Hear

Here are the things no one wants to hear:

• Healing doesn’t happen overnight.

• Breaking cycles takes time.

• Dissolving a block is not as fast as waving a magic wand.

We have to let go of the idea that we can instantly shift a pattern (or block or wound) as soon as we’re aware of it.

Progress doesn't mean completely shifting patterns overnight, but seeing and navigating them with more awareness and self-love.

Natural growth and change are slow and steady, not fast and sudden.

Last year marked the first time I’ve allowed myself to fully feel my pain. The pain of the world that’s reflected on me, the pain of my ancestors that I’ve decided to carry, the pain of every little thing I’ve experienced in my life.

27 years of not truly allowing myself to feel that breaking pain.

But this is not where it ends, not where the cycle breaks. It’s just where the work begins.

Since that moment, I’ve been avoiding my pain more than feeling it.

And for the longest time, that would have felt like the biggest failure.

I've beaten myself up so hard in the past for not breaking the cycles when I knew I had to.

For falling into the patterns again and again, even after knowing they’re there.

But the truth is, even if I haven’t allowed myself to fully feel my pain these months, all of it was still progress.

A level of progress that no one talks about but is so important when you're doing this type of inner work.

I’ve allowed myself to feel that pain again this month.

The cycle hasn’t lasted another 27 years, just a few months.

I haven’t gotten back to the level of numbness I used to feel when avoiding my pain, just to the feeling of seeing my pain pulsating within me, but not being ready to let it out.

I’m not trying to dilute my pain or make it something that’s not, just sitting with it in the exact shape, way or form it wants to take.

Things get better.

Easier.

Lighter.

Even if the pattern is not broken, the wound healed or the block dissolved.

That's progress.

That's part of the process.

That's one step closer to actually breaking the cycle.

My pattern, even if it's not broken, doesn't look the same. It never will.

Expecting myself to get to that point in a couple of months when I've been carrying this pattern for 27 years, it's not just unrealistic; it's fucking insane.

You might find yourself moving through patterns in a lighter way. You may catch yourself falling for them faster than ever before. What took months to get out of an unwanted behaviour in the past may now take weeks or days.

That's still progress.

That’s healing. That’s growth.

The more I allow that pain to come out, the lighter I feel.

The more I let it break me, the more whole I am.

The more I sit with it, the more I see my true self.

And even though more often than not, the thought of going back to that level of pain feels scary as fuck, it makes me want to bolt and run; I don't push it deep. Because I know that it’s made me more resilient, and I’ll find the strength to dive into it again.

Things don't change overnight.

The patterns that you’ve been repeating your whole life don’t change overnight.

The wounds that you’re carrying with you from your lineage or past lives don’t change overnight.

The blocks that you can feel in your energy, that require more than just a little awareness, don’t change overnight.

Don't expect to break all your patterns in a month. Don’t expect change to happen fast. Because if you do, you’re just setting yourself up for failure.

You don’t need to be perfect.

Acknowledge everything you’ve already done, how much you’ve grown and how you’re moving differently from how you used to.

The change is there if you know where to look.

Fully healed doesn’t exist.

Allow yourself to be set free from the lie.